The Difference Between Wanting and Needing a Relationship – Dating Relationship Coaching & Advice

Today’s topic can be a difficult one because you may not even be aware that you are caught up in this scenario. The difference between wanting and needing a relationship.

It is important to be in a partnership for the right reasons and be on the same page for the most part. When you want to be in a relationship, you are ready to have a supportive, loving, intimate partnership that is healthy and reciprocated. Needing to be in a relationship is often due to insecurities and having a dependency on someone else to make you feel secure and accepted.

Some people don’t feel like they are a whole person if they aren’t sharing their life with a partner. They don’t like to be alone.

When you have a full life, you are confident and feel good about who you are.

When you learn how to be very comfortable and at peace with who you are, you can then be free to open your heart to someone. This is not an easy process for some men and women, but it can be achieved when you take the time to do the work to remove self-doubt and insecurities. This is a much healthier way to meet a potential partner than when you are feeling lonely, sad, or rejected from a past breakup.

The best time to meet your special person to share your life with is when you are independent and happy. Your partner should be an extension of who you already are, and vice versa. You should compliment each other as a couple. In other words, you are not relying on each other to feel whole! You want to be together because you equally bring more into each other’s lives. It’s the cherry on top of what you have both already created individually.

Needing to be with someone can make you settle for a partner, and it could make you choose someone who isn’t healthy for you.

When you always need to be in a relationship, you may not realize what you are sacrificing to be there. Many people go from one relationship to the next without taking any time for their hearts to heal, or to reflect on what transpired in each broken partnership. One of the most valuable life lessons is to learn from your mistakes and move on to a better path without repeating unhealthy patterns.

Unfortunately, some people take way too long to understand the importance of this and continue to be in unfulfilling relationships. It can also make your partner unfulfilled as well because they are getting shortchanged by only getting part of you that is available. Your dependency can make them feel suffocated at times.

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Holding onto someone due to personal insecurities will not bring you the great love that you truly desire.

When you are settling to be with someone to make yourself feel better and less lonely, you can end up feeling even lonelier, being in the wrong partnership. Sadly, this can be a difficult pattern to overcome because you would rather be with someone (even if it’s an unhappy situation) than be single and living alone. This shortchanges your happiness due to repetitively allowing yourself to be in this loveless environment.

If this scenario is happening to you regularly, it is time to step away from having any relationship and talk to a counselor who can help you get to the bottom of why this continues to happen. There may be some deep-rooted self-doubt that keeps you in a place of need. You deserve to be happy and have the love you desire, but you shouldn’t be sacrificing your needs because you’re dependent on being in a partnership.

It is so important to learn how to be content by yourself and also comprehend what it means to share a loving reciprocated partnership.

Respecting yourself as a priority will give you the confidence that enables you to meet a potential partner. It is important to be emotionally available and independently mature to connect with a like-minded person who wants the same things. You have to love yourself first before you can give love back to your partner. It is not your partner’s job to make you feel whole.

When you understand that it is very imperative to do the work on yourself, you will then be able to offer reciprocated nurturing love within your relationship. Having balance is crucial for love to survive over the years.

Sybersue xo

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