That strict and tight embrace that one struggles against and maybe, just maybe, breaks triumphantly free of, or, having failed, accepts their restrained fate. Titillating times indeed. Bondage is an exacting taskmaster that can not be bribed. There is no confusion, no shades of gray. Bondage is black and white. It either is, or it is not.
Is it any wonder that people love the experience and surrender to its sensation? Once one fully leans into bondage, how long you can take it or how strict it can be often becomes a fascinating thought. Some people start fantasizing about overnight bondage or weekend-long bondage, curious about exactly what they can take.
Today’s column comes courtesy of a professional martial artist who wants to put his skills to the ultimate test—can he escape from his protégé, one that he has spent almost a year training? Can he be the Harry Houdini he believes himself to be? Or will he end up with a dislocated shoulder? Let’s find out!
“I am an experienced use of force instructor and I do it for a living. This means I train so called close-quarters-battle, use of small arms, use of handcuffs etc. About one year ago I met a woman who wanted to receive training on use of handcuffs and restraining. She is a professional dominatrix and her goal is to be able to restrain a person in the most intense and effective but safe manner. We have been training together for around 10 months now.
Now we have a sort of crazy idea–a final exam of sorts, meaning she would restrain me for one weekend and I would use any means there is to try and escape. This time I would be a real prisoner if I can’t get free. I have considered my escape-measures, hiding a handcuff key etc, etc. I would love to know your opinion: Do you think the escape will generally be possible (during the night etc.) and if not, how should I prepare myself for a weekend of imprisonment? I figured you would be the person to ask.”–Kept Extremely Yoked
I am so very glad you wrote to me before attempting your final exam KEY. Do I have an answer for you? Yes. Yes, I do. But you are not going to like it.
This is a horrible idea. For a number of reasons.
Do I believe that you are a professional force of use instructor who trains for this sort of thing for a living? Yes. Do I believe that a dominatrix contacted you and asked to be mentored by you? Yes. Do I believe that you’ve spent close to a year imparting all of your knowledge of handcuffs, restraints, and martial arts skills to this woman? Also yes.
Where Are You Planning On Hiding This Key?
If all of this is true, then most assuredly she will be expecting you to have a handcuff key on you in order to pass this final exam. After all, that’s how Harry Houdini did it. His wife would keep a key in her mouth. After Houdini was thoroughly inspected and shown to be handcuff key free, she would kiss him and slip the key to him. Nothing about your letter states anything about you having a partner that could slip a key into your mouth, so where exactly are you planning on hiding this key? On your person? Surely your mentee would be expecting that and thoroughly search you…
Would you be hiding the key internally? Swallowing it? How thorough of an inspection could this dominatrix be doing on you? Would she examine you internally? Once she has you fully restrained if you are hiding this key internally, how do you access it? Wait to use the restroom and then go fishing with cuffed hands?
If you are not hiding the handcuff key on your person, either internally or externally, then you’re hiding the handcuff key somewhere in the location where this final exam is going to be taking place. Obviously, she’s not going to be able to watch you for an entire weekend. She’s going to have to sleep at some point. If the extent of your final training is to hide a handcuff key either on your person or at the location of the final exam, wait for her to fall asleep, and then free yourself, then it’s not all that challenging of a final exam. You have the key and all you have to do is wait for her to sleep.
Weekend-Long Bondage Has Its Dangers
It is the time in between her falling asleep and you accessing the key that gives me concern. The entire point of your final exam is to try to get free from the escape-proof restraints you have spent close to a year teaching her. You are not going to be relaxed and still in bondage. Your “test”, as it were, is you struggling and straining. I don’t care how professionally trained a martial arts master might be, the more you struggle and strain, the higher your chances of injury.
The odds that you are going to damage a shoulder or wrist during your weekend-long bondage experience? High. Much higher than I would be comfortable with, personally. While I can’t stop you from exploring this Houdini final exam with your personally trained dominatrix and I don’t doubt your experience and skill set, I think that it’s an extremely risky experiment.
I Cannot In Good Conscience Recommend This Bondage
You wrote in asking for my opinion and this is it. It’s an opinion I feel very comfortable stating and, like you, I am also a restraint professional. I cannot, in good conscience, encourage you to do it. You might, after reading this column, go through with it anyway. If you go through with it, you might escape successfully or you might fail but still have a wonderful weekend being completely restrained. It is certainly possible.
But a dislocated shoulder and permanent nerve damage are also possible. I had handcuffs applied to me during a play session with a detective over a decade ago and I still have permanent nerve damage on my left inner wrist. If there’s anyone that you would think would be professionally trained on how to properly apply handcuffs, it would be an officer of the law, right? But here I am a decade later with that numb, rubbery, cold electric sensation on my left hand and it shows no signs of going away. Metal is unforgiving on flesh and damage can most certainly happen.
Please be careful KEY and best of luck in your explorations.
Keep it Kinky My Friends,
RDG
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