It’s safe to say that I have been lucky enough to sample a wide and varied range of experiences in my day, and I have the footage to prove it. It hasn’t been by accident or random chance—I specifically started modeling because I wanted access to specific experiences. It wasn’t for “fame” or “money” (if that is why you want to model, you are going to probably end up disappointed) but because that was the best way I could think to experience the things I craved.
One of the most frequent questions I have been asked over the years is: “How do I get to experience what you have done in your films?” It is a good question that has a bit of a complex answer. So complex that it is at least the length of an advice column. Oh, look at that, here we are at an advice column! How convenient is that? Here we go.
“I keep having fantasies of being immobilized and vibrated way beyond what I can handle, like I have seen done to you in films. Forced over and over and over again. How do I experience what you get to experience in these videos? Where do I go to find that? I can’t stop thinking about it and I know I NEED it.”–Craves Undone Mind
If only there was a universal directory of “Experience Providers” I could give you CUM. I was once in your shoes. Like you, I craved the deeper, more intense experiences. I dreamt of the ones that push you past your limits and leave you a melted, drooling, undone puddle of flesh on the floor. Believe me, I get it. Do I ever.
Elaborate Experiences Require Extensive Skill
As a fairly practical person, I sat down and thought about what it was I would need to do in order to get the experiences that I craved. Here is where things get complex: the more intense and mind-melting the experience, the more skillset and craft needed to create it.
Pushing people past their limits into that magical undone brain-melting space is an art form. It’s a skill that not everybody has. Certainly, it is a skill that can be acquired over time, but it isn’t something you master overnight.
Learning how to safely do bondage so that someone can thrash like a sweaty wild animal but not injure themselves? Avoiding nerve damage? Learning how to read someone’s body language so as to know you are taking them on the journey they crave? Not pushing them too hard but also not pushing them as far as they would like to go? You really need to know what you are doing to pull that off.
There Is A Fine Line Between Being Taken To The Limit And Past The Limit
Restraining someone and then forcing them to be vibrated past what they can handle is an activity in the deeper waters. Past the possible physical damage of the bondage, you also need to be sure someone doesn’t get pushed too far or ends up feeling scared or traumatized after it is all over. Taking someone “past what they can handle” carries an increased risk of things going wrong, both mentally and physically.
Realizing all this is what got me started on my path as a fetish model. Profesional production studios have the most skilled people, the fanciest and most elaborate equipment, and the safety net of multiple people around keeping an eye on things. There is no way that I’d have been able to experience all the things I’ve experienced to date if I wasn’t a fetish model.
Fetish models and the directors they work with are essentially sexual stunt people. Their jobs are doing the most elaborately hedonistic exhibitions they can think of. The videos that you see set a very high bar for kinky activities and are outside the bell curve for most kinksters. That is not to say that it is impossible to have those experiences if you are not a model. However, it is much easier to get them via a studio setting than in your local dungeon.
Here Is My Formula For Extreme Experiences
Unfortunately, I don’t have a handy list of reliable, vetted experienced providers that I can hook you up with. What I can do is give you a formula.
- Find out what you want (you have already done this part)
- Get involved in your local kink community
- Clearly communicate your wants and desires to the other people in your local community
- Vet any possible play partners before engaging with them—don’t rush into play just because your brain is hungry for the experience
To be fair, even if you do follow this formula, I can’t guarantee that you will get the experiences you are craving…but you have a much better chance than if you don’t follow it. Best of luck CUM and may you get the brain-melting you crave!
Keep it Kinky My Friends,
RDG
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